She Reflects: A Spiral Journey for the Feminine Soul
She Reflects is a love letter and a call to action - for compassionate and courageous healing and reflection, for you, for me, for us. Born out of a full heart, broken-down body and weary soul, with much asking and listening in for guidance, She Reflects is living proof that pain, loss and vulnerability can (and will) be transformed into art, creativity and healing.
As part of my work in Dance Our Way Home, I created a process of healing and discernment, of shedding the old and celebrating the new. The process takes us through eight turns of a spiral. Each turn is a chapter in this book.
At the First Turn, we slow down, linger and pause. We soften, relax and listen. We tune into ourselves, creating space for our inner voice, body and heart wisdom, to be heard. We ask and receive. We open to the exquisite dialogue only we can have with the world around us.
Through the Second Turn of the spiral, we become the wanderer journeying out into the unknown guided by our inner impulses, instincts and rhythms. This journey is a solo one, inviting us to be curious, innocent and present. It’s a deeply personal and daringly courageous adventure.
We then move into relationship with another. Into Heart. Into Aphrodite’s realm of Love and Devotion.
At this, the Third Turn, we prepare to meet and be met. We nourish our partnerships and conscious collaborations, and learn to lovingly dance our way out. We learn to move on with compassion, kindness and forgiveness.
In the Fourth Turn, we shift our focus from one-on-one relationships to being in community. It’s about finding our people, and sense of belonging. It’s the healing of collective joy and play. Here, we become both mirror and mirrored, to amplify our gifts and celebrate the circle. We gather, unite and shine.
The Fifth Turn of the spiral is about the magic of letting go and its healing power. We learn to yield and shed what no longer serves. It’s here where we let powerful Oya, the Goddess of Tornados, sweep us clean, and release the grip of our inner critic and perfectionist. We give it up. We let go. We do it with, and for, love.
At the Sixth Turn, we arrive after the release, ready to invite Wild Woman, and all that is wild, to guide us to a life with abandon - feral and free, spontaneous and juicy. Without script, apology, or regret. To be free, to feed our soul. To howl at the moon; run with the wolves.
And now, at the Seventh Turn - having met ourselves, another, and the world - we return to self, to love. Here, we bring back home the wisdom we’ve gathered, and integrate the experiences and lessons of our journey. We find the truth of who we are. We find acceptance. We find gratitude. We see the sacred.
At the Eighth Turn, our personal experience of the return to self longs to express and fulfil itself outwardly. We become of service. We share whatever goodness we’ve found, to be a source of light, solidarity and healing for others. To radiate and reflect, and be the divine mirror we are born to be!
And as we prepare to enter the process and cycle back around, we come to a potent liminal space. (Check out the Epilogue.) Here, we take a moment to pause, reflect, and honour the ways in which we can and do hold it all - the dark and the light, the tender and the wild, the mundane and the mystical. Everything. Feel it. Know it. Be with it all.
There it is - the full spiral. We begin with soft curiosity, and complete with gratitude, being a loving witness to the sacredness of our journey. But keep in mind, as spirals go, this ending is really just the beginning, the pre-requisite for the next whirl around the sun. The spiral dance keeps going. And so it is!
Every part of this book has been carefully crafted to support you in exploring what that ‘turn of life’s spiral’ might mean, or has meant, for you. They are ‘mirrors’ intended to reflect back to you your own glorious light! This is YOUR book.
At each turn - in each chapter - I tell a personal story which illustrates my own experience, sharing some of the geography of my own journey, from exploration and adventure, through love and forgiveness, from letting go to freedom.
Each personal story leads to reflections on that turn, and a collection of my finest, well-loved practices - expressive, healing and inspirational prompts and exercises.
I’ve enriched the journey with visual and acoustic experiences: Artwork (sent straight from my Muse), found here and in the companion “She Reflects Journal & Colouring Book” as colouring pages, and personally designed music playlists. (I normally don’t share my playlists. You’re welcome!) *If you find artists you love, please show your love by buying their songs.
Although each turn flows from the one before it, they are self-contained. You can read the book from front to back, or pick a chapter that calls to you and start there. Go at your own pace, and adapt or modify the practices as you need.
Here is a sampling of the many practices: A Day of Curiosity, Be Kind to Yourself, Consciously Collaborate, Encounter the Wild Goddess, Forgive with Metta (Loving Kindness), Heal Our Sisterhood, Linger at the Threshold, Pass the Flame, Trance Dance with Love, What’s Your Soul’s Offering?
Whatever you do, however you do it, remember… All paths lead us home if we ask for them to do so! All ways are sacred. There’s no right or wrong, just here and now.
This is a sacred laboratory for your consciousness and a playground for your aspirations.
Because, here’s the thing…
We are each of us extraordinary and brilliant.
You are precious. You are perfect. You are powerful beyond measure. You are LOVED.
“Part adventure tale, part guidebook, part meandering jazz that takes us where we need to go, She Reflects mirrors the lightness and darkness of being human. Drawing on her own experience as dancer, teacher, and an embodiment of the Sacred Feminine, Erica Ross invites us to live it all: the mess and the magnificence; the poetry and the power; the stillness and the dance.” - Oriah "Mountain Dreamer" House, author of the bestseller, The Invitation
“She Reflects is a gift from a wise woman who has journeyed into the depths of her own soul and across the globe. Offered with a rare and warm kindness, Erica masterfully weaves memoir with inclusive resources, practices and stunning artwork as a mythological and practical road map to evoke the creative feminine (a source of love and nurturance for all, regardless of gender or sex) and expand our capacity to reflect, heal and be clear mirrors for others.” - Nan Keyser, Psychotherapist and Co-Creatrix of Dance Our Way Home
“Brava, Erica! Your sacred brew of wild and tender stories, reflections and practices, mixed with your exquisite artwork and oh so amazing dance sets, is a riveting companion for my feminine soul to keep returning to again and again.” - Deborah Brodey, Sound Healer / Yoga Teacher, Creatrix of Radical Nourishment
“I’ve already reserved a spot for this book in my collection of top 5 resources. Erica’s offerings are tried, tested and true. I completely recommend diving in! May this book move and inspire your heart, body and soul to further explore, heal and transform the rich landscape of your feminine soul.” - Elisa Hatton, Life Coach / Consultant, Creatrix of Tortuga Life Coaching